You learned to survive: Now its time to LIVE.
Your journey to wholeness begins here.
You didn’t choose to become this way.
Perfectionism isn’t a personality trait- it’s your protection from rejection.
Shame isn’t truth-it trained you to believe you are not enough.
Striving for love isn’t neediness- it’s your protection against being abandoned.
You learned to read rooms before you learned to rest.
To perform before you were ever chosen.
To earn what should have been freely given.
So now you carry a quiet exhaustion.
A sense that no matter how much you do, it’s never quite enough.
A fear that if you stop proving your worth, you’ll be forgotten.
But the voice telling you that you are unwanted, unworthy, or unlovable
is not your voice.
It’s the echo of what you endured.
Grab your copy and step into your healing.
If you’ve ever carried wounds you didn’t ask for – emotional abuse, abandonment, silent battles nobody saw – this book was written to speak to that place in you. It’s bold, honest, and full of the kind of healing that meets you right where your pain is. And it points you back to the God who restores what life tried to steal.
If you’re ready for freedom, clarity, and the courage to break old patterns—your moment starts here.
Patrick Easley’s memoir, Make Her Love Me: A Son’s Battle with Narcissism & Abandonment is written from the heart of a son, sharing some of the most harrowing and traumatic experiences of a young life. Patrick courageously and transparently takes the reader on a journey through a roller coaster of emotional tragedy and abuse, managing to recall every word and emotion with incredible precision and clarity. Written using strong and vivid verbiage, the story grabs the readers’ attention and holds it until the end. Make Her Love Me is emotional, honest, heartbreaking, and at times, shocking; yet the result is a story that will transform lives and allow individuals who have been through the hell of abuse to see a light at the end of the tunnel and come to realize that God has the power to heal. Make Her Love Me is a gripping memoir, written with courage, transparency, and wisdom. It is a Triumph!
Youlonda M. LCSW, TADC
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Emotional abuse fractures identity.
It teaches capable, compassionate people to doubt themselves,
to shrink their needs,
to confuse survival with character.
Your Healing Options…
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Transformation Life Coach
I help people break free from survival mode and step into a life of purpose, clarity, and emotional strength. Using a structured, supportive coaching process, I blend real-life experience, clinical insight, faith (optional), and strategic action steps to create meaningful, sustainable growth.
Together we will:
Identify limiting beliefs rooted in trauma.
Break cycles of rejection, abandonment, shame, and self-sabotage.
Build emotional resilience and renewed sense of identity.
Develop habits, mindset shifts, and spiritual practices that sustain change.
Move toward the life you were created to live, with clarity, confidence, and freedom.
I don’t just help you set goals; I help you become the healed, empowered version of yourself, who can actually reach them.
Disclaimer: I am a supervised clinical therapist, however, this is not therapy and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Please note: If you desire clinical services, please see “5” option for Therapy.
Coaching Pricing
Invest in Your Transformation
Your journey is unique, and so is your path to growth. Choose the option that fits your goals:
- 1:1 Coaching Sessions – $125/session
- Transformation Packages – 4 sessions for $450 | 8 sessions for $850
- Free 15–20 minute Discovery Call
Custom packages are available , including groups— let’s design a plan that meets your goals and your story.
Let’s do the Heart Work!
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Speaker
I bring energy, clarity, and authenticity to every room I step into. I translate complex emotional and relational topics into messages that are relatable, practical, and transformative.
Topics include, but not limited to:
Emotional & Relational Healing – Overcoming abandonment, healing from narcissistic relationships, and breaking dysfunctional cycles.
Faith & Mental Health – Integrating Christian principles into healing, finding identity in Christ, and the power of forgiveness.
Personal Growth & Transformation – Challenging self-sabotaging beliefs, overcoming people-pleasing, and developing emotional resilience.
Marriage & Relationships– Understanding attachment, navigating romantic relationships after trauma, and breaking toxic patterns.
Fatherhood & Masculinity – Healing father wounds, redefining masculinity, and leading with emotional intelligence.
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Workshop Facilitator
I create dynamic, experiential learning environments, that help individuals or groups grow, heal, and develop adaptive skills. I guide participants through structured activities, discussions, and reflections that lead to insight and action.
My role includes:
Designing Engaging and Immersive Learning Experiences
Leading Interactive Discussions
Creating safe, supportive space for honesty, healing, and transformation.
Equipping participants with tools they can actually use.
My facilitation style blends storytelling, clinical insight, faith (optional), and practical application to help individuals move from awareness to real change.
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Author
Make Her Love Me is the cry of many sons and daughters who secretly fight for healthy attachment to their mother.
I invite readers to touch my wounds so hope can rise again. In a world desperate for safety and connection, this book offers refuge—inviting you to feel honestly, break open what’s been hidden, and heal slowly, piece by piece.
What I offer:
Author Talks – sharing my story, themes, and healing insights from my book, Make Her Love Me: A Son’s Battle with Narcissism & Abandonment.
Book Readings – selected passages with discussion.
Book Signings – at schools, bookstores, churches, or events.
Q&A Sessions – on trauma, healing, identity, and faith.
Writing Inspiration Sessions – guiding others on turning pain into purpose.
05
Clinical Therapist (Supervised)
I provide therapy for individuals including, children, youth, and young adults, who have experienced emotional abuse, narcissistic dynamics, rejection, or abandonment, helping them explore old patterns, process painful experiences, and reclaim a strong sense of self.
I also work with couples seeking to strengthen connection, improve communication, and navigate challenges together, fostering understanding. Together, we focus on restoring emotional clarity, building resilience, and creating practical strategies that empower you to live authentically, embrace your strengths, and step confidently into your purpose and meaning in life.
Through therapy, I help clients process trauma, identify and change unhelpful patterns, manage difficult emotions, and build coping skills. For couples, I guide them in improving communication, resolving conflicts, deepening understanding, and creating practical strategies for a healthier, more connected relationship.
If you’ve experienced emotional abuse, narcissistic relationships, rejection, or abandonment, or if you and your partner want to strengthen your connection, you don’t have to navigate it alone. I provide a safe, trauma-informed space to heal, uncover patterns, and reclaim resilience, self-worth, and hope.
Are you ready to Do the work?
Transformation Coaching Process
In a nutshell, I do the inside work! My coaching approach is trauma-informed, insight-driven, and transformation-focused. I believe individuals already possess the internal capacity to heal, grow, and create meaningful change. My role is not to fix you, but to help you access, organize, and strengthen what already exists within you.
I integrate Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) principles with transformation coaching, to help you recognize how thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and behaviors interact, while honoring the impact of lived experience. We may intentionally visit the past, but we do not live there. The purpose of looking back is insight, not captivity. The past informs the present so the present can be changed with clarity and intention.
Transformation coaching differs from traditional life coaching in that it moves beyond goal-setting and accountability alone. While life coaching often focuses on what to do next, transformation coaching addresses the internal drivers behind behavior: identity, belief systems, emotional wounds, and meaning. Rather than asking only “What do you want to achieve?”, this work asks, “What within you needs clarity or healing in order to move forward?”
Transformation coaching also differs from therapy. Therapy often focuses on diagnosing, stabilizing, and treating mental health conditions. As a trauma-informed counselor, I value the importance of therapy and its role in healing. However, Transformation coaching is not therapy, nor is it a replacement for it. Instead, it is forward-oriented, agency-centered, and solution-focused. The past is explored intentionally, to understand how it influences the here and now.
At the heart of my work is what I call Heart Work: the inner work necessary to uncover, interrogate, and heal forward. This is not about reliving pain, but about understanding it well enough to loosen its grip. Through Heart Work, we identify emotional wounds, challenge survival-based beliefs, and restore choice where it was once lost.
Areas of Expertise
I specialize in emotional abuse; together we address narcissistic dynamics, abandonment and rejection wounds, perfectionism, shame, forgiveness, self-sabotage, cognitive distortions, and the reshaping of self-concept and limiting beliefs that develop in response to chronic emotional harm.
I offer faith-based coaching for those who desire it, grounded in my personal commitment to Jesus and my calling as a pastor-not as a substitute for emotional work, personal responsibility, and evidence-based practice.
This work centers resilience, self-awareness, and forward movement. Healing is not about erasing the past-it is about understanding it well enough to stop letting it define your future.
My coaching process follows a structured yet flexible framework designed to move clients from awareness to action:
01
Excavate
We gently uncover patterns, wounds, narratives, and coping strategies that shape your current reality, prioritizing safety, curiosity, and self-compassion.
02
Interrogate
We examine what has been uncovered-challenging distorted beliefs, questioning inherited narratives, and identifying what no longer serves you.
03
Discover
New understanding emerges. Strengths, resilience, unmet needs, and possibilities become visible.
04
Process
We take time to emotionally and cognitively process what has been revealed-allowing insight to settle, emotions to be acknowledged, and meaning to be integrated rather than rushed.
05
Decide
With clarity/sobriety restored, you make intentional decisions about what to release, redefine, or reinforce. This step centers choice, ownership, and forward direction.
06
Solve
Together, we develop practical, sustainable strategies aligned with your values, goals, and real life. Solutions are co-created, not imposed.
The Voice Behind the Story
Patrick Easley, MA, CLC is a mental health professional, certified trauma-informed transformation life coach, published author, and pastor who helps others heal, grow, and step into the life they were created to live. He is also a devoted husband and father of 19 + years.
Having endured hardship and survived severe emotional abuse, Patrick brings a powerful, authentic message of healing and restoration. He inspires hope and reconciliation in the hearts of both young and old, guiding others toward love, forgiveness, and emotional wholeness.
Patrick’s journey is deeply informed by his own experiences with abandonment, rejection, and feelings of inadequacy—wounds rooted in feeling unwanted, unworthy, and unloved. These challenges fuel his passion for creating safe, compassionate spaces where individuals can explore pain, confront limiting beliefs, and embrace forward healing and transformation.
With experience in individual, couples, and family counseling, Patrick specializes in supporting youth, young adults, men, and couples through self-discovery and emotional healing. He helps individuals identify hidden emotions, cognitive distortions, and patterns that hinder growth, offering practical tools and spiritual guidance to cultivate freedom, responsibility, and meaning in their lives.
Patrick believes that the journey to healing often includes difficult roads and dark spaces—but no one has to travel it alone. He walks alongside individuals every step of the way, providing insight, empathy, and encouragement.
He holds a BA in Communications from the University of Louisville and a MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Liberty University.
Emotional Abuse: Why it Matters
Emotional abuse, sometimes called psychological abuse, is not a single incident but a repeated pattern of behavior such as belittling, rejection, humiliation, verbal attacks, or the withholding of affection and emotional support. Because emotional abuse is often subtle or normalized—yelling, harsh criticism, emotional withdrawal, or unmet emotional needs—it frequently goes unrecognized, both in childhood and later in adult relationships. Over time, these patterns erode a child’s sense of safety, worth, trust, and belonging, especially when emotional needs are inconsistently met or love feels conditional.
Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse often leaves no visible scars, which makes it easy to minimize or overlook. Yet its effects are profound. Children raised in emotionally unsafe environments may struggle with self-esteem, trust, emotional regulation, and learning what healthy connection looks like.
Through both professional work and lived experience, I understand how these early patterns can persist later in life. Many adults who experienced emotional abuse as children, often carrying distorted beliefs about love and worth into adulthood: people-pleasing, perfectionism, abandonment fears, emotional shutdown, or a chronic sense of not being enough.
Healing often begins when these experiences are named and understood, allowing individuals to unlearn survival strategies and develop new patterns rooted in emotional safety, self-worth, and secure connection.
36%
of adults have experienced emotional abuse during childhood
47%
of adults with one adverse childhood experience (ACE) report emotional abuse as their first form of maltreatment
48%
of emotionally abused children experience relationship instability in adulthood
3x
more likely to develop depression/anxiety, PTSD symptoms, personality-related emotional dysregulation, or experience suicidal ideation
Long-term Effects: What Happens When Children Become Adults
Adults who were emotionally abused as children show higher rates of depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and other mental illnesses compared to non-abused peers. Adults also experience insecure attachment and relationship instability.
Emotional abuse (alone or combined with neglect/abandonment) has been shown to increase odds of suicidal behavior and self-harm.
Health-care utilization both mental health and somatic (physical health), tends to be higher among adults who experienced childhood emotional abuse.
Emotional abuse may lead to long-lasting changes in brain structure and function (in brain regions responsible for emotion regulation, decision-making, and stress response), which can contribute to difficulties with self-esteem, impulse control, relationships, and emotional regulation.
Compared with physical or sexual abuse, emotional abuse, including neglect, in some studies has been associated with equal or greater long-term harm.
Abandonment
Emotional abuse and abandonment are closely linked. While emotional abuse is often defined by harmful words or behaviors, abandonment is defined by absence. The absence of safety, consistency, protection, and emotional presence. This absence can be just as damaging, especially when it occurs during childhood.
Abandonment does not always mean a parent physically leaves. It can also occur when a caregiver is emotionally unavailable, disengaged, or unpredictable. A child may grow up with a parent in the home and still experience abandonment through neglect, rejection, or emotional withdrawal. Over time, this teaches the child that their needs are unimportant or unsafe to express.
Fatherlessness is one of the most common forms of abandonment. Whether through absence, emotional unavailability, or instability, the loss of a father figure often leaves a lasting emotional imprint. Many children internalize this absence as a reflection of their own worth.
Abandonment and fatherlessness often result in:
- A deep sense of unworthiness, shame, or feeling invisible
- Difficulty forming secure attachments or trusting others
- Fear of rejection or abandonment in relationships
- Suppression of emotional needs to avoid further loss
It is important to recognize that abandonment is not a single moment but an ongoing experience that shapes identity, attachment, and self worth. Naming abandonment and fatherlessness as forms of emotional harm allows survivors to better understand their pain and begin healing without self blame.
Healing begins with acknowledgment. When abandonment is recognized as a real and valid trauma, survivors can start to rebuild a sense of safety, develop healthy boundaries, and learn that their needs are legitimate. Understanding the connection between emotional abuse, abandonment, and fatherlessness helps break cycles of silence and creates space for compassion, awareness, and recovery.
Healing is not about fixing you.
You were never the problem.
Healing is about untangling your worth from performance. It is about quieting the inner critic that learned to sound like authority.
It is about releasing the belief that love must be earned, chased, or proven.
Healing touches the places where emotional abuse took root:
your sense of safety,
your ability to rest without guilt,
your relationship with your own needs,
your fear of being seen without being useful.
It also means learning how to trust your emotions instead of questioning them.
Setting boundaries without collapsing into shame. It means, letting yourself be chosen without over-functioning.
Healing is about restoring what was interrupted:
self-trust, emotional safety, identity, and agency.
It’s about moving from hypervigilance to presence,
from perfectionism to self-compassion,
from survival-based love to secure connection.
This work helps you recognize the difference between who you are
and who you became in order to survive.
Not by tearing you down-
but by gently giving you permission to stop holding yourself together alone.
You don’t need to be repaired.
You need space, truth, and support to return to yourself, and I give you permission…
We Need to Talk About It!
Emotional abuse is often invisible, minimized, or dismissed as “not as serious” as physical or sexual harm. Yet decades of research show it can be just as damaging, and in some cases even more harmful, to long-term emotional and relational development. Abandonment, whether physical or emotional, frequently coexists with emotional abuse and can function as a powerful form of it. The chronic absence of emotional availability, protection, or consistency communicates harm even in the absence of overt acts.
When children grow up in environments marked by manipulation, rejection, humiliation, emotional instability, or abandonment, these experiences shape how they learn to love, trust, and see themselves. Emotional neglect and relational loss teach children what to expect from others and what they believe they deserve, often long before they have the capacity to understand or name what is happening.
Talking about emotional abuse and abandonment matters because so many adults are still carrying the emotional residue of childhood experiences they were never allowed to name. Many discover later in life that their struggles with self worth, connection, boundaries, or intimacy were shaped by patterns of emotional harm and absence that began long before they had language for it.
Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Dial 988
You can call or text 988, or use the online chat at 988lifeline.org.
It’s available 24/7, free, and confidential. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.
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Working with Patrick has changed the way I see myself. His insight, compassion, and ability to connect the emotional with the spiritual helped me heal wounds I didn’t even realize were still open.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
Britley Y.
Coaching Client
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Patrick has a gift for helping people feel seen. His authenticity made it easy to open up, and his guidance pushed me toward healing I had avoided for years.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
Brian J.
Coaching Client
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Patrick’s teaching and coaching brought clarity during one of the darkest seasons of our life. His blend of faith, wisdom, and real-world experience is unmatched. We would highly recommend him for any event.
★ ★ ★ ★ ★
James F.
Coaching Client
Connect with Me
Whether you’re desiring transformation coaching, or planning a conference, workshop, or church event, I’d love to connect!
If my message speaks to where you or your audience are on the journey, please reach out here. Share a few details, and I’ll follow up personally. Let’s create something transformative together.
For inquiries only, please email me directly:
connect@patrickreasley.com
